The saying, “what happens in this house, stays in this house” was very serious to follow by in certain households. It’s quite hurtful that as girls and boys we can’t tell our parents we don’t feel loved by them so they can listen to our hearts or that we can’t simply ask for help because our family will talk about us. They will question, “why should I help you?” instead of asking, “how can I help you”? They'll be quick to encourage you to give your problems to God, but are even quicker to ask you for a handout and use God as the voice who told them to ask you. Guess they don't believe in taking their own advice.
Sad isn’t it? They would prefer for you to suffer publicly so they can gossip about you privately. They would rather celebrate those who don’t celebrate them, rather than see you off because you’re doing something amazing with your life. They would choose you to be the lookout but never want to look out for you. I guess they just don't believe in taking their own advice. For 23 years, I have become accustomed to dealing with both good and bad attitudes. I guess that’s what happens when you establish any kind of relationship. You have to learn how to maneuver through your good days and bad days with certain people. Otherwise it’s just being said “you have an attitude today” or “oh just because you have a little money, you’re acting different.” But what happens when you simply decide it’s time to match the same energy you’ve been given? Oh let’s not pretend as if we’ve never felt like treating someone bad because they made us feel less than or maybe we’ve decided to bless others because they’ve always been there for us. It happens. Oh never mind, I know a few of you will say you’ve never felt this way before. I get it. You’re in denial. Today’s post isn’t about getting even, but about addressing things within the “family”. But first I have a question. If you believe you are a loving family who just goes through rough patches here and there, then why are you so quick to speak down on members within your family who are struggling with a few patches of their own? Sounds to me like jealousy or maybe you just need some attention for the moment. I guess you got tired of holding on to your secrets, so you felt the need to spread lies. Who knows? It's been said that when people talk about you, it's because they see something in you that is missing within them. I think that only implies when they are bold enough to comment on the way you wear your hair or the fact you dress nice each time they see you. Maybe they want to be like you and it frustrates the hell out of them that they just cannot. It's also been said that family gossips about you because they are looking for a new prey to place the target on. An example of this would be bringing up past situations (jokingly or non jokingly) that can make you upset because now the attention is off of them and onto you. Or they can be hateful and use their words to manipulate the minds of others to turn against you. Either way, you are the new target. In which I will now refer to you as THE NEW TARGET. It amazes me how easy it is to influence the minds of the weak with the use of words. It's almost as if their minds were trained to believe nonsense. Anything they hear, they instantly believe because IT SOUNDS CONVINCING. Crazy right? So then what happens after they believe it, their emotions change, and then they begin to speak negatively about you (the new target). Then depending on who they are "venting" to (usually an in-law or family friend) will decide if the fuel of the fake fire will continue to rise. What I mean by that is the issue isn't real, but because their mind is so weak, they believed what they heard and ran and told the next witness. Now this witness adds their input, encouraging this weak minded fool to keep expressing themselves and now the mastermind behind this is sitting in the back laughing believing they are too smart for their own good. All because you believed something that was not real. Now I see why church folk say an idle mind is the Devil's workshop. He sometimes believes he is just too smart for his own good. Now everyone in the family is aware of what they believed to be convincing and have now formed both an opinion and chose a side. Unfortunately new target, no one heard your side because well you weren't ever really aware of what's going on. You're smiling and laughing believing people are being genuine with you when in fact, they are just waiting for the fire's flame to rise. They are waiting to see you burn, almost prepared to crucify you as if you're the problem. Talk about messy messy messy. You're finally aware of where the target has been placed and you're confused. You're being treated as an outcast all while being innocent, but the minds of the weak are too caught up in believing what was just too convincing for them so now you deal with looks, people not wanting to speak, them unfriending you on social media and oh so much more, but you stand your ground. Oh new target you are braver than most. Needless to say, you smile through it all because now you know where you stand and have decided that they will no longer place a target on your back so you removed it and threw it into the fire they caused. You didn't burn, but sure enough the weak minded fool had to apologize (as they usually do) for God said he will make your enemies your footstool. And he did. But then again, no one really has to go through this because your family truly stays together. Ha who are we kidding? It's no longer a secret once the family knows, hell they're the cause of it. x/o Ming 💕
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Shyanne
9/9/2020 10:49:54 am
Wow Symone this was beautiful.
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Keiarra Landrum
9/9/2020 12:36:19 pm
OMMMMGGG !!!! Girlllll 😱😱 literally read each and every word, I felt this on so many different deep levels. Sometimes I just get the feeling that my family is just waiting for my down fall, also because where I live and come from, I guess they don’t see the real achiever in me. You really truly BOOSTED me to keep on pushing. “Go away fake fire” is what I started to think & say lol.
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Lg
9/9/2020 08:26:49 pm
true facts u wrote the beautifully no lie keep speaking that real
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Ingrid
9/9/2020 02:06:06 pm
Very well said..... love it
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Liszt
9/9/2020 02:19:03 pm
Baby girl this was right on time. Family sometimes isn’t fair but God is. Gotta step on the Devil’s neck and let him know he is defeated.
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Kyle
9/9/2020 03:15:05 pm
This was really hard to read because it's honestly true. Families are quick to judge one another and it hurts of course, but you have to always remain who you are & never allow people to get under your skin. Like you said..it's all fake fire.
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Shyee
9/9/2020 03:15:55 pm
Very well said. Perfect. If they can't help you, move on and love them from a distance.
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Cierra
9/9/2020 03:16:54 pm
Never be afraid to speak your truth no matter how difficult or how hurtful it can be. Never bash anyone in the process either. This was amazing to read.
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sarah
9/9/2020 03:18:03 pm
I've learned that when people say things about you, family or not, you cannot be affected by it. Pray for them & move on. Some will hate you even more for not paying it any attention.
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Jackson
9/9/2020 03:19:12 pm
Whew that's toxic all around, but it happens sometimes. This is why it is important to keep going no matter what. You can't forget that no matter how bad it hurts you, it will never be able to break you.
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Taylor
9/9/2020 03:19:42 pm
THIS WAS SO DAMN GOOD. Now I see why you were so excited.
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Ashley
9/9/2020 03:20:40 pm
Was this about your family in particular because if so, maybe you should express this to them. Communication is key.
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Brian
9/9/2020 03:21:49 pm
You're strong girl. Love your writing because you aren't afraid of being raw and vulnerable. This is absolutely amazing. Keep your family lifted in prayer, it's obvious it's needed.
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Keisha
9/9/2020 03:22:25 pm
Wow Symone Wow.
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Jason
9/10/2020 04:34:03 pm
See this is why I’m always reading your work... IT’S REAL!! What people fail to realize is that the second you engage or allow yourself to become intrigued with gossip, you’re already limiting yourself. Like you said.. there’s no real issue but some of us like watching the fake fuel burn. My God today. This was right on time. My mother’s brother and I were having a discussion about families not praying with one another and how often times we stop praying because we’d rather distance ourselves as long as we can play the victim. The Devil loves it and if we believe in God, we shouldn’t allow the Devil to even think he’s won. So yes this was confirmation that what we discussed is accurate. Remain encouraged and continue speaking your truth. This was amazing.
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Jasmine
9/10/2020 04:35:21 pm
That’s why when my family talks about me I say thank you for thinking of me and I love them from a distance. They can’t steal what God has for me.
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Jackie
9/10/2020 04:38:08 pm
Wow this is powerful. If only you could imagine the kind of pain gossip causes but like you said an idle mind is the Devils workshop. This was truly amazing to read. You remain encouraged. We are in our last days.
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Earnest Jackson
9/10/2020 04:40:50 pm
A family that prays together stays together. Always remember that. Keep your family lifted in prayer no matter what they think of you or how they may treat you. God will definitely keep you protected and covered at all times. Let him handle whoever needs to be handled. They talked about Jesus & He STILL DIED FOR OUR SINS.
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Maya
9/10/2020 04:47:49 pm
Now I’m not apart of your family but I felt a if I was dealing with my family. My parents disapprove of anything I decide to do for myself. I wanted a certain car, they said no. I wanted to date outside my race, they didn’t like that. So reading this is almost like me having to deal with my family. I still remain who I am despite what my parents say about me to our other family members but this is just crazy to read. At least I’m not alone. 😂
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Kianna
9/10/2020 04:49:33 pm
Yesssssssssssssssss SYMONE!! Speak on it!! Keep the Devil OUT!! When people think they can gossip and say whatever about anyone.. I stop them dead in their tracks and say not today. Think before you speak and try it again.
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Diana
9/10/2020 04:53:35 pm
It’s moments like this that make me say, “Damn this girl can write”. You never cease to disappoint me. Your work isn’t about creating drama or jumping on bandwagons to be like everyone else but it’s you just being you. Symone honestly telling her side of the story. Keep speaking your truth and don’t be afraid of what your family may feel because through it all you are most certainly covered.
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Sharon
9/10/2020 04:56:46 pm
Is this about your family in particular or a generalized problem that occurs within every family?
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Candace
9/10/2020 04:58:59 pm
My favorite part of this was the lookout part. You’ll always be their favorite niece or brother or even parent of the decade when you’re doing what they want but the second you say, “No”... oh you are everything under the sun. My goodness. I can relate to this so much. Keep writing beautiful, your time is coming.
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Cameron
9/10/2020 05:02:41 pm
It doesn’t matter what you write about, I always find it so therapeutic and I’m not sure what it is but I guess maybe it’s because I can relate to you and that gives me comfort in knowing I’m not alone. Except the marriage part lol I’m not quite there for many reasons BUT your writing will change the world. Keep going. Keep letting us know what’s on your mind.
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Briana
9/10/2020 05:04:24 pm
“ Needless to say, you smile through it all because now you know where you stand and have decided that they will no longer place a target on your back so you removed it and threw it into the fire they caused. You didn't burn, but sure enough the weak minded fool had to apologize (as they usually do) for God said he will make your enemies your footstool. And he did.”
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Marquis
9/10/2020 05:07:01 pm
I was sold by the title that this was going to be some straight fire and sure enough the heat was unbearable. You can write and what makes you so good is that you don’t have to even say a name... that’s for us to decide who we wanna put there. Hmm that’s why it’s always relatable. That’s amazing. #BlackQueen
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Tiana
9/10/2020 05:09:37 pm
Yes ma’am. Keep going. Let God handle those who try to hurt you and remain prayed up and watch God work. Trust me. Silence is key. Keep that beautiful smile and keep perfecting your craft. Start a series about who Symone is TODAY and watch how amazing you feel. We are now interested in you and you only.
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Crystal
9/10/2020 05:11:37 pm
Good story. Is it true? Or just something you want sympathy for? Either way all families aren’t like yours. You claim your blog is about helping others but I don’t feel like this post helped anyone. But I’ll just say good story for now. Hopefully next weeks isn’t so negative and filled with you seeking attention.
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Mia
9/10/2020 05:12:53 pm
I love love love love this. We are putting families back together and stepping on the Devil’s neck. We are serving him notice TODAY!!
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Jordan
9/10/2020 05:16:22 pm
You just described every black family in the world. Sad but it happens.
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